How long do you stay with the partner that you love?

My grandparents were married for 64 years. I know I will never see 64 years of marriage. Can you really find that one person that you love and want to spent the rest of your life with?  Dating is just not how it used to be, nor is life!

When my grandpa was alive I swear I heard the same story over and over. How he met my grandma! They grew up together, lived on the same street and went to the same church. They were married and never looked back or at another person sexually, EVER! Well that is until my grandpa was in a rest home and was hitting on the 22 year old nurses.

I think back to who I grew up with, there is not one person that I even stay in touch with. I see people I went to school with and they are in the set standard of a divorce or two. Being a single mom or paying half of what they make in child support. I have some friends that are married, working two jobs just to support the kids they already have and their wife wants more.

I have to think to myself, at what time do they divorce? Do they divorce? If I was a man I would be afraid of how much I am going to have to pay for child support. Do men stay together with their wife for fear of how much they are going to have to pay?

Utah has one of the highest divorce rates in the country. Getting married right out of highschool takes it toll on a relationship, at least in this day and age. I know I would want a divorce with who I dated in high school.

What type of society are we progressing into? One that dates a silicone body part, pushes men through a revolving door in front of our kids and parties like they were 21. Or the one that gets on match.com and has sex with any woman he can to validate he still "has it". I say most likely has an STD after a match.com marathon. Rosie palm and her five sister still has a fighting chance when it comes to what is out there.

I know so much of what I don't want but what do I want?

The dirty deed at the slumber party!!!

Silicone, front door, back door, and the door bell???  Is this is how we are talking about sex.  I have been to a few Slumber Parties and let me tell you they are nothing compared to the Las Vegas sex store.
I went in good humor to support my friend that has never been to one. They like to call the newbies "The Virgin".

Of course you start the night off with a lot to drink.   We had hard lemonade and jello shots.  I think back and my mom used to have these parties when I was small.  It was always to grandmas house for the night.  Now I know why!!  These women get out of control.

Have housewives been doing the dirty deed with toys for over 30 years? As I am finding out most of the women that were there were single mom's.  They were more sex driven than a teenage boy. Something is said for cougar women;

"They either need a young man or allot of toy's"

Maybe I was the party pooper or just not in the mood but spending $198 for a plastic body part was just not my thing.  As the night came to an end, the virgin went home to her man, I went home to sleep and all the girls went home with something that hummed like a humming bird.

I don't think I am ready to date, however I am sure not ready to date a silicon body part in the meantime.

Nails done, Hair Done, Everything Did... Oh, you fancy, Huh?

Thank you, Drake, for quoting a woman's lifelong quest to finding out if men notice!

"You getting ready so I know we don be here awhile

in the bathroom flat irons and nail files

spending hours in salons on your hairstyle

ht the gym step on the scales stare at the number

you say you dropping 10 pounds preparing for summer

and you don't do it for the man? MEN NEVER NOTICE"

Well this pretty much sums it up!!! OR NOT?

Do men really notice these things??  I know they notice the over processed and underdressed girls no matter where they are.  Is all this time really worth what "we" as women put into trying to get a mans attention or our we doing it for ourselves?  Maybe it is our own insecurities that require hours to look good for our own eyes.

I can't say that a man catches my attention when they look good.  Maybe they just don't look good enough?  I don't remember thinking this way except when I was in school.  Now that I think about it, the last time I was single was in school.  Now I am shoved into this adult world of being single.

"What am I looking for?  Or am I looking at all?" I am questioned with.

How are looks not suppose to not matter when our dating world has turned to the internet?  There is no more mall walking, it is looking through loads of pictures and profiles instead.  With the same result, how far can they get.  

Why do I want to pay to meet men?

I know it has been over a year, however dating is just not my thing and has not been for a while.  I figure any date I wound up in Jail for a DUI was a HUGE warning sign to NOT DATE ANYTIME SOON!!  I decided that a devoted mother was a much better fit for me!  The past year I have done everything to avoid it, dating that is.

So here I am sitting on the couch the other day and an ad for Match.com comes on.  It looks intriguing, it has been almost 2 years.

"WHY THE HELL NOT!!!" Famous last words.

Here you sign up, find your picture, fill out a million questions;

"What are you looking for? Someone who is sane!" However they don't seem to have that choice.

"Body type? OH ok right!?&@!"

This is the point where you know everyone is lying their ass off.

Every man you read about is athletic and toned, however photoshopped!  My favorite male post on my search was this;

"I am looking for hot toned athletic girl who is young.  I am not looking for a committed relationship, just some fun!"

TRANSLATION: "Looking for as many girls as I can to have sex with"

"No thank you walking STD" was my last thought.

So here I am playing around, reading about these men wavering back and forth on what to do and what do you get?  A cost of $22.95 a month!!  A recurring cost at that!!  I am just not sure any "date" is worth money on a website.

"Who are you really paying for, and what?"

Any story I heard about internet dating always seems to end worse than jail!

Maybe I am just not ready.