So here I am 33, widowed, and left with a small child. I have just recently decided that it is time to get back out int the the "dating world" and, I hope, have some fun. Well, I have yet to the find fun. I'm just tip-toeing out.
My first experience at "the bar" was with my cousin. I decided to go out with her and her man as their third wheel. We went to their friend's birthday party. I noticed that bars have changed in the past 12 years, or maybe I just got smarter... either way, I hope that 12 years ago, I was not as dumb as some of the people I saw at the bar!!! You have the girls dancing, they're having fun, every man in the bar is watching them, deciding on their plan of attack, "how do I get them home to bed?" Then you have the other men out there, and they look like they are shaking in their shoes. The thought of talking to a woman is so obviously painful to them that you'll only see them standing there sweating in their cologne-soaked shirts. And then, of course, you have the ones who can't look you in they eye... because they can't get past you boobs... "REALLY?" Is this all that I have to look forward to??? I hope not, because this scares me.... Not that I plan on picking up men in bars, I just had to make that a disclaimer here... so enjoy the blog and the craziness of "I have to do WHAT to date!"
My first experience at "the bar" was with my cousin. I decided to go out with her and her man as their third wheel. We went to their friend's birthday party. I noticed that bars have changed in the past 12 years, or maybe I just got smarter... either way, I hope that 12 years ago, I was not as dumb as some of the people I saw at the bar!!! You have the girls dancing, they're having fun, every man in the bar is watching them, deciding on their plan of attack, "how do I get them home to bed?" Then you have the other men out there, and they look like they are shaking in their shoes. The thought of talking to a woman is so obviously painful to them that you'll only see them standing there sweating in their cologne-soaked shirts. And then, of course, you have the ones who can't look you in they eye... because they can't get past you boobs... "REALLY?" Is this all that I have to look forward to??? I hope not, because this scares me.... Not that I plan on picking up men in bars, I just had to make that a disclaimer here... so enjoy the blog and the craziness of "I have to do WHAT to date!"
No. Go out with people whom you know, but are single. It gets fun. The key is to talk to the guy you "may" be interested in. What can a conversation hurt? I have been divorced for over a year, and I am just now starting to look at what I want. It is difficult, yes. But after a bit, you will learn to enjoy meeting other people. You may not date them more than once or twice, but you will gain a friend.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you I am just having such a hard time, I am from vegas and my husband was a party animal, we went from club to club and watch the sunrise then said "screw this" let go find another club.... Well that was 12 years ago and now... o the stories I am going to tell... "and you all know who you are" be afraid, be very afraid... I want to laugh and half of me wants to run and hide... :THIS IS GOING TO BE FUN, RGHT???"
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